I’d like to start this post via a quote.
“An important decision I made was to resist playing the Blame Game. The day I realized that I am in charge of how I will approach problems in my life, that things will turn out better or worse because of me and nobody else, that was the day I knew I would be a happier and healthier person. And that was the day I knew I could truly build a life that matters.”
― Steve Goodier
Any choice that we make has a consequence and we should be willing to take the ownership of that choice and the resultant consequence.
For example, someone is offered a promotion in a job but he has to transfer to a different city in case he wants to take that promotion. Now if the person has a family settled in City 1, he won’t be so eager to move the cities. At this point ‘no promotion’ is a consequence of the choice that he made. Someone else who’s willing to take the promotion will have to sacrifice family life for it. That’d be a consequence of his choice. So, in both cases, they’re free to make their choices and should be willing to accept the consequences in return. They can’t blame anyone or anything else for it.
“No one can climb your back until it’s bent”
Another example, if you are in a long-distance relationship and your partner drifts away from you because you are able to spend less time together, again we can’t blame the circumstances here, that is again your own fault since the choice was necessary there to spend more time with him/her.
When we dislike the consequences, we blame someone else for the choice. We need to take ownership of each and every choice that we make in life and we do make thousands of choices every day, however small they might be.
“What is destiny more than an end result? If there is such a thing as destiny it must change. With every thought, we think, every word we utter, every choice we make our destiny adjusts to fit the consequences of that choice.”
Do share your views on this.
That is true but sometimes things may seems like out of our hands but they always are we write our destiny, and it is always on our hands.
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Exactly . We do write our own destiny. ☺️
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Brilliant post!
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Thank you so much 🙂
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This is so, very true!
The day we stop playing the blame game will be the day we take responsibility for who we are. It also makes us independent in a way.
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Yeah ☺️
We do need to realize that most of the things are in our own hands however indirect the ownership may seem.
Thank you so much Nameera for sharing your thoughts.
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That’s a thought provoking post 🙂
Reminds me of a brilliant monologue from the otherwise critically panned movie ‘Rocky Balboa’- If you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth but you got to be willing to take the hits and not point fingers saying you ain’t what you wanted to be because of him, or her or anybody’ 🙂
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Thank you so much 🙂. And yeah I was able to recollect the scene as well after reading your comment. ☺️
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Good post. My son always had problems with making choices when he was little. A friend said that it was because we always go through a tiny bit of grieving for the choice not taken. There’s the responsibility for the choice we take, and the loss for the choice we don’t and that’s all on us and no one else. Beautiful photo, too, by the way.
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Thank you so much for sharing this with me. And the insight about the grievance of choice not taken is wonderful and an addition to the post. ☺️☺️
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Absolutely agree! A great post!
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Thank you so much 🙂
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As long as we always identify who made what decision, then we can logically understand how things happened next. Sometimes things are in our control and other things are not. And act accordingly. Doesn’t seem hard to me to understand.
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Yes. You beautifully summed it up. 😊
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Very true! Everything we learn or accomplish is clearly in our hands… Nice post!🖤
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Thank you 🙂
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An individuals life is in her or his hands. Its the truth. You sow the seed you want to sow for your own better or worse. 👍
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Indeed. 🙂
Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.
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My pleasure 🙂
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I agree, we’re responsible.
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Indeed. 😊
Thank you for reading
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My pleasure
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So true…Amazing!👌
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Thank you for reading 😊
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Pleasure is all mine 🌸💐
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By blaming others you refuse responsibility,
by refusing responsibility of your life, you admit you don’t control your life,
by admitting you don’t control your life you are doomed to the whims of others.
Take responsibility, gradually more options will open up
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Well said 🙂
Thank you for visiting and reading the post . 😊
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Well written
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Thank you 🙂
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