“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”
– Oscar Wilde
Our world is probably full of people who seemingly haven’t a clue how others really see them. But, of course, the real question is whether that’s also true of you. Or, in my case, me. Perhaps we’re no better when it comes to intrapersonal awareness.
So, Why is that?
- “Unless I know, How do I manage?”
We generally don’t even know that ‘what’ we don’t know. So it becomes really difficult to manage ourselves.
- Not enough Intrapersonal feedback as we grow
From the people around us, we don’t normally get enough feedback about us as a person. People generally tell us what we want to hear and not what we need to hear.
- Lack of Introspection
Think for a minute, if you suddenly get some unexpected free time during a day, what would you do with that time?
Your answer generally would be sleeping, going out, pursuing some hobby, watching TV, talking to someone, or, maybe whatever the next thing was on your to-do list. How many of us actually spend some time introspecting our life, our choices?
- “Why me?”
Even if we get to know some things about ourselves, acceptance of those things is quite difficult for us. We always go with ‘Why me?’ attitude rather than accepting the consequences of our choices.
- ‘Imposter syndrome’
We always compare ‘the best of others’ to the ‘worst of ourselves’. On social media, we see everyone accomplishing things, being happy, etc which further weighs us down. And there’s this component of self-doubt as well where we doubt our achievements as ‘fluke’ and are always afraid of being ‘found out’.
- ‘What’s the Destination?’
We generally don’t know ‘where to’ go. And because of that life feels purposeless which brings sadness into life.
- Way ahead not clear
Even if we manage to know where to go, the next problem is ‘How to’ go and that’s why we feel stuck.
Solutions –
- Seeking self-knowledge
We generally avoid this, but if we introspect properly and seek awareness about ourselves, we’ll progress better in life.
- Directly asking others
There are certain people in life whom we trust and can count on that they’ll provide us with true feedback. We should directly ask them about ourselves whenever we have a doubt. The answer might be harsh, but you never know that a harsh answer is what you might need at that moment.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
― Rumi
Makes you think really.. It always seems like what everyone else is doing does have a huge effect on us. Although, another amazing piece Aman, I loved it😊❤
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Thank you so much 🙂❤️
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😊❤
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Yeah we should be self aware.
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Yeah. Indeed. ☺️☺️
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This was quite an insightful post. And helpful too. I think for me, introspection is always the solution to all my problems. The answers we seek lie within us. With a proper mindset & courage, we can achieve great heights with regards to self-growth.
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Thank you so much Nameera ☺️ Answers do lie within us. If only we look for them and listen to them. ☺️
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“We always compare ‘the best of others’ to the ‘worst of ourselves’.”
Profound!!
I spend a great deal of time in my awareness… focusing on my next steps, and how they’d impact the ripple of change. What you say is spot on! More of us, all of us should be doing this introspection! We just may find a greater sense of purpose and happiness!
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Thank you so much for reading it so deeply🙂
It’s great to know that you introspect a lot! ☺️ And I totally agree, all of us should be doing this. 😊
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I do everything so deeply lol it’s a blessing and a curse lol
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Haha. Yeah. A double sided sword. 😅☺️
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It is, indeed.
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Thank you so much 🙂
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We must be a self-aware 👍👍very nice post and helpful for many
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Thank you so much Nidhi. ☺️
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Self-inspection is something so many rarely attempted. You’ve written so mighty important truths here. I hope you are able to influence many, Aman. 🙂
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Thank you so much Susi. I hope I can implement these too along with influencing others. 😊😊
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I totally agree with you and we should stick to the last line said by Rumi . Everyone’s life is different in their way so there should be no comparison .
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Thank you so much 🙂 and we should indeed.
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Welcome . yes, we should 👍
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This is something to be looked upon. Self Awareness is an important aspect to loving yourself. Great post.
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Thank you so much Kritika 🙂
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Loved the post, and that last quote. Rumi always says it right…
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Thank you so much 😊
And indeed, He’s right.
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This was a very insightful read! Really got me thinking seriously about myself. Great work!:)
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Thank you Aditi 🙂
I’m glad it could provoke thoughts.
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Nice! Thanks and much appreciated for sharing
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Thank you so much for reading 🙂
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