I’d like to start this post via a quote.
“An important decision I made was to resist playing the Blame Game. The day I realized that I am in charge of how I will approach problems in my life, that things will turn out better or worse because of me and nobody else, that was the day I knew I would be a happier and healthier person. And that was the day I knew I could truly build a life that matters.”
― Steve Goodier
Any choice that we make has a consequence and we should be willing to take the ownership of that choice and the resultant consequence.
For example, someone is offered a promotion in a job but he has to transfer to a different city in case he wants to take that promotion. Now if the person has a family settled in City 1, he won’t be so eager to move the cities. At this point ‘no promotion’ is a consequence of the choice that he made. Someone else who’s willing to take the promotion will have to sacrifice family life for it. That’d be a consequence of his choice. So, in both cases, they’re free to make their choices and should be willing to accept the consequences in return. They can’t blame anyone or anything else for it.
“No one can climb your back until it’s bent”
Another example, if you are in a long-distance relationship and your partner drifts away from you because you are able to spend less time together, again we can’t blame the circumstances here, that is again your own fault since the choice was necessary there to spend more time with him/her.
When we dislike the consequences, we blame someone else for the choice. We need to take ownership of each and every choice that we make in life and we do make thousands of choices every day, however small they might be.
“What is destiny more than an end result? If there is such a thing as destiny it must change. With every thought, we think, every word we utter, every choice we make our destiny adjusts to fit the consequences of that choice.”
Do share your views on this.